there is no tool that tell you that your site got banned, if the site gets banned, it simply no more longer appears in the search results. If the penalty is regarding using of adult content, it is harm and no more longer will appear in the result, and if the site is banned due to some links pointing to it from abuse sites, the same penalty going through it. But it is better to check yourself, why you site is banned. PM me so that I can give you a link where you can read article in respect of ban websites. Or just type in Google how to recover a ban website, you will get the top 5 results against the search query.